“While those who feel fine waltzing into a five-star restaurant in a Hooters T-shirt and flip-flops might disagree, our wardrobe choices absolutely do reflect our personality, character, and judgment. Your clothes are your first means of communicating who you are to the world, and they often speak volumes, whether you like it or not.” Steven Petrow explains business attire, festive attire, and formal attire for the Huffington Post.
My brain is totally fried, fellow fashionistas, but I wanted to share with you the results of my color challenge!
First off, let me apologize that I have yet to figure out a better means of taking pictures than the iphone in the mirror thing. At some point.. I will follow through with lovely pictures and a beautiful collage a la Rae.
If the outfit seems familiar, that’s b/c it is basically identical to my last challenge. Doh! Didn’t realize till I uploaded things and went back through the tumblr.
On the flip side, I love that with a few colors, I can change up an old favorite outfit!
Sweater: Merona (Target), Dress: old navy, Boots: Mountain Sole Women’s Boot Paige (Sears),Earrings: gift from my sister, Watch: Silver Brighton (gift), Tights: Target
I’ve spent most of this week considering what makes me happy and what I really want. I just moved into a great space, but I’m not unpacking at a great rate because I’ve been thinking so hard about what I want the spaces to be and how I want them to look and function. In the same sense, I’ve been considering what sorts of goals, intentions and resolutions I want to set for the new year for myself. I was eager to take up Rae’s challenge to set some fashion resolutions, but I wanted to ponder it with equal importance. So here goes (sorry if this gets long): 1) Dress for the body I have. As I’ve been building my roller derby body and training for a (very quickly approaching) Tough Mudder challenge, my body has changed and is continuing to change. I think I’m dressing for what I think my body looks like and somehow simultaneously what I think it SHOULD look like. Neither are working super well, so it’s a good time to change that.
2) Explore color. I tend to stick to earthy neutrals and dark tones probably 6/7 days of the week. I’d like to incorporate more color into my wardrobe and maybe even into my hair.
3) Maintain my hairstyle, whatever it may be. For whatever reasons, my hair has a huge impact on how I feel about myself. The more variety and the more stylish I can feel about it, the more put together and less sloppy I feel. That good or bad energy seeps into the rest of my life too and so it’s important to me that I find a way to maintain it and dress it up and keep my do looking sorta cute. This might actually involve me learning to cut my own hair, but we’ll see.
4) Keep my purse clean and organized. Don’t laugh! At any given time this year I might’ve had an assortment of foods, crafting supplies, jewelry and change among the assorted meds, cards, and other things in my purse and it’s out of control. At one point this year I was late paying a bill because I lost it in my purse! If I need to take craft supplies with me, they can be put in an appropriate bag to stay organized within my purse. I’ll take my change out and put it into the change jar or take it to coinstar.
5) Try to see myself through other people’s eyes (because this view kinda sucks).
6) (six?!?! jeez oh pete, it’s gonna be a busy year) Give more compliments and learn to accept them without changing the topic.
Some other things I’d like to do this year include getting another tattoo that includes the flower below, learn to sew clothing better, and wear more shoes that i own.
So I just told Rae that truth be told… I suck at resolutions. I’m actually trying a different technique to resolutions this year, which is to focus on resolution goal words instead of actual resolutions. I’ll probably post about it in my personal tumblr later.
All of that being said, I’m going to make some more resolution style goals here for you sexy readers. Why? Well 1) bc Rae asked me to and she is a very hard person to say no to and 2) I believe that voicing your goals makes you more accountable.
Let’s see how this is going come March!
1. Wear red lipstick or lip stain… or really anything that isn’t chapstick that will add color and high femme-ness to my lips. (Plus I happen to know quite a few dapper butch friends of mine who basically melt over a femme in well applied red lipstick).
2. Find a pair of red flats. I currently own a pair of red heels that are so tremendously loud and high that they really could never swing it in my professional life. Bonus points if the shoes and the lipstick/stain matches.
3. Wear as many different outfits as possible before pulling repeats. As I mentioned before, I tend to get stuck in ruts. I wear the same thing over and over (I do wash it first). I have a closet full of lovely clothes! I should not be wearing the same 7 outfits every week!
4. Make an effort to look nice for work. (I promise I don’t rip off everything from Rae in my life; we’re friends who have similar interests/issues!) Seriously though.. I have to make a good impression to new clients, current ones, their families, and my co-workers. People pay good money to be where I work. I should look good.
I realize this is a reiteration of many of my fashion challenges, but can’t hurt to restate my intentions!
On New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day, someone inevitable asks, “What are your New Year’s resolutions?” I generally make some snarky comment about how “I don’t need resolutions.” Truth be told, I always make them. I just often choose not to share. But for you, my lovely readers, I will share my fashion resolutions.
Find a pair of navy dress shoes. I have to wear black or navy shoes with my navy suit when I judge gymnastics, and I hate wearing the black with the navy. Apparently navy was not an “in” color last year, but I plan to find some navy shoes to eliminate future clashing.
Find a good-fitting pair of simple navy slacks. Also for judging. I need to avoid the ill-fitting grandma pants from Lands’ End if at all possible.
Wear more belts.
Get back to my healthy weight. I know this isn’t fashion per say, but I will feel a lot better about myself when I am eating better, exercising regularly, and my jeans fit right. I’ll be more inspired to dress cute and take risks.
Accessorize more. I am not a ring or earring girl, but I have lots of beautiful necklaces and bracelets, not to mention scarfs, belts, and tights. They need to get worn.
Dress “professional” when I teach (Fridays excluded, let’s be real). It is a good excuse to dress up and I instantly get more respect from my students.
I’m 26 and work in the delusional world of advertising. Fairly fem, but both fit and handy. I’m very much a DIY enthusiast and pride myself on being a good gift giver. (how’s that for random facts? LOL) I play roller derby and always enjoy a challenge.
I have the opposite fashion challenge that most people have at my age - I work in an office that can be very casual and I have to work to not be so sloppy and so casual. I’m trying very hard to make peace with my body and stop being at odds with it and I think more about how to dress the body I have as that starts to succeed. I have big feet, broad shoulders and long arms, which can be challenges when it comes to keeping it feminine ( not that i don’t enjoy my t-shirt and cargo shorts, but they have their place). I struggle with date night outfits as well as day to day stuff. I’m dealing with a tight budget, too so remixing and restyling is going to be key.
I avoid/don’t like the way I look in bright colors and therefore end up wearing lots of dark colors and black. I’d love to spice up my wardrobe. I think I look silly in lots of contemporary fashion that I wish I could wear.
I think there’s lots of no-nos for women’s fashion, but the two ladies before me did a great job of labeling them.
I love my skinny jeans and flip flops. Maybe someone should hide them so I stop wearing them.
Enough rambling! I love asking and answering questions so if there’s something I missed, please let me know!
About me: 23 year old, queer woman. Sometimes I call myself femme, but sometimes I am uncomfortable with that label. Native of sunny Florida, now living in the not-so-sunny Midwest.
Currently working on my M.A. in Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies and teaching college classes in Human Sexuality. Also, in the midst of applying for doctoral programs. Thoroughly absorbed in the academic bubble.
I’m a former dancer, gymnast, circus performer, and gymnastics coach, and I miss all of that fiercely. I now judge gymnastics, which means I spend many weekends in a hideous navy skirt suit.
Craft lover. Reader. Scrabble addict.
Fashion favorites: 1950s inspiration. Accessories made by local artists and friends. A-line skirts and dresses. Blazers. Boots of all sizes, shapes, and colors. Brightly colored flats. Button-down shirts with just the right number of buttons unbuttoned. Classic cuts with a little funky flair. Fishnets. Layers. My faux leather jacket. Scarves. Soft sweaters. Tights. Pumps.
Current fashion challenges: Dressing in ways that make me look professional and older than my students while also fulfilling my goal of being the “hot professor.” Finding cute shoes in a size 10. Even more so, finding cute shoes in a size 10 that are comfortable enough to traipse back and forth across campus in the snow. Figuring out how to wear pink, yellow, and ivory (or avoiding those three colors altogether- much to Er-Bear’s dismay). Learning to love my adult body and accept that I will never again look like I did when I was 19. Maintaining that delicate balance between naughty and nice. Taming my wild, curly hair.
My fashion “No-Gos”: Anything where I can see your lady bits. Boot sandals. Bubble hems. Crocs unless you are under the age of eight or a gardener.Fuzzy boots unless they are under long pants and it is snowing. Leggings as pants. Pajama pants in public. Peasant tops. Shoulder pads.
Brands I love: Aldo shoes. Calvin Kline. Express. Fossil. Indigo by Clarks. Jones New York. Kirkland signature camisoles (from Costco) and Old Navy tank tops- I seriously wear one or the other on a daily basis. The Limited. Merona at Target. Nine West.
Hello all! Before you take this fashion journey with us.. I figured we should let you know who is driving this thing…
About me: 28 yr old, queer, (usually) femme woman
Master’s of music from FSU. Bachelor’s from Berklee College of Music. Music therapist. Director of fun at an assisted living facility in New Orleans. Cellist. Guitarist. Vocalist. Poly. Hardly vanilla. Wannabe vintage femme. Rock wall climber. Foodie. Baker. Road trip extraordinaire. Crafter.
Fashion favorites: Scarves. Boots… ok really, shoes in general. Tights. Summer dresses. Vintage anything (that I can afford or get my hands on).
My fashion challenges: Dressing to look professional (but hot) at work, but still be able to bounce/rock n’ roll/run all around all day AND hide the giant tattoos on my right shin and calf. Dressing cute on a budget (who isn’t now a days?). Getting out of a rut where I wear the same things every week with the same accessories. Waking up early enough to make my hair pretty and maybe even put on makeup eve. I do not know how to wear lipstick…( I know I know.. they may strip me of my femme title). Making my curves look hot instead of like muffin tops. Flagging the femme way.
What NOT to wear/I Dare you to make this hot: Boots with the fur (unless you are in the snow or dancing mostly naked on a bar). Clothes that look dirty/stained/like you should be using them as cleaning rags. Leggings as pants. Crocs (unless you’re a nurse or vet AT work). Flip flops with socks. Real fur. Sweat pants (outside of the gym). Acid wash
Fashion I count on: Fossil. Lucky jeans. Marshalls, Ross, and thrifting for new looks. Handmade accessories. My fellow bloggers and leetle seeester to tell me when I’m hot and when I’m not.
When I think of holiday fashion, I think of dresses layered with tights and coats, sparkly scarves, and warm boots. I do not think of temperatures in the 70s. Thus, the challenge is to put together a festive holiday look appropriate for the warm weather outside.
Making this extra challenging is the fact that at least two of us will be dressing from a suitcase. Another lucky blogger is in the process of packing up her house to move. Can we make Christmas hot? Or at least warm?